If you’ve ever felt like you didn’t fit in – like everyone around you seems to have it all together and you’re on the outside looking in – I want you to know, you are not alone.
I totally get it. In spades.
I was always picked last for Red Rover, I got pelted with snowballs when I wore my NJROTC uniform at High School, and I was literally laughed off the gymnasium floor at tryouts by the head cheerleaders and, sad to say, by the coach herself.
I rode a unicycle and played the accordion and spent hours building Heathkits in the garage with my Dad.
Most of us spend years trying to mold ourselves into someone acceptable to the group. We think we’ll be happy if we are validated for being just like them when the truth is we can never be completely happy by denying who we really are.
When I was a young Naval Officer, this crusty, old submarine Captain looked down at me over his reading glasses one day and said,
“You need to get back in your box, young lady.”
You’d think that would have been a clue I was not in an environment suited for my unique gifts and talents (most of which have nothing to do with following rules and regulations!)
Time to Get a Clue
You were not created to “fit in.”
No one in the history of humankind has ever been exactly like you, and no one ever will be. Even if you are a twin, your sibling has distinct differences from you and each of you were given separate gifts.
You are meant to stand out.
To grow up, and step up, and live up to the life God gave you.
The fear you feel for being judged by others means you are trying to be accepted by the wrong group. By people that want you to be someone else.
But that unique part of you – you know, the part you may have shut down early in life when someone laughed at your talents or interests or skills – that’s where the magic lies.
That’s where you’ll find the clues that will lead you to your greatest success.
Once you embrace your authenticity and discover you like making waves instead of blindly following someone else’s rules, you will leave everyone else in the dust.
You don’t need to get back in your box – you need to burn that box.
Refuse to be so obedient all the time, find your passion, and start taking charge of your own dreams.
Hear your own voice.
Trust your own voice.
And start listening to yourself now.
Don’t just change the rules, define them.
1. List ten things you loved to do earlier in your life. Put them in the order of which ones make you feel most alive, excited, giddy, or free.
2. Write one action step next to each of the top three – a step you can do this week that helps you begin to explore that activity once again.
3. In the comments section below, share one of your long-lost passions with me. Go ahead, dare to be judged – that fear means you’re on the right track!
Seriously, don’t you just want to laugh when you picture me on a unicycle? 🙂