As the cooler weather sets in, this wicked woman thinks she can just show up in my office and wreck havoc in my business.
She shows up dressed in sloppy clothes, wearing nothing more than moisturizer and lip balm on her face.
Her hair looks, well, you can only imagine.
And she hates me.
She makes me think it’s ok to be mediocre. She likes to be warm and cozy so she wears sweatpants and baggy tops. Sometimes she even wears her slippers.
If she only did this on Saturday, I could let it slide, but she has shown up in my office like this on work days and still has the nerve to call herself a businesswoman.
And because she dresses in this “I don’t care, whatever” way, it carries over into how she thinks too, and that’s when she becomes downright dangerous.
Sometimes this woman is so stealthy I don’t even notice that she’s shown up. But then I’ll start to notice clues:
- my purse starts to look like my kitchen junk drawer
- there are random piles of paper on my desk
- deadlines get missed
- my to-do list gets longer and things say on it for days
I’ve met this enemy before and she is ruthless.
She is me. The worst version of me.
It’s the personification of the phrase “get out of your own way.” I saw a photo of myself on one of those days and it gave me a clear picture of who I’m up against.
And it scares me.
Because I know she can bring me down faster than a 1970’s love song. I have hung that photo above my computer like a Wanted: Dead or Alive poster.
- Don’t let your lazy, evil doppelganger show up in your office.
- Don’t let her hijack your business and take it on a merry ride through average-ville.
- Don’t let her tell you it’s okay to go to work with an attitude or appearance you wouldn’t display in an interview.
- Don’t let her destroy your self-confidence.
She does not want you to be more confident and achieve higher goals because that would mean she’d have to actually exert some effort and she’ll do anything to avoid that, including destroying your work in the process.
Be the best business “you” as possible and do that every day. Show up as your most confident, excellent self and do it because you take your business seriously, not casually.
Those of us whose longest morning commute is from the coffee pot to our desk can be lulled into thinking our business is a hobby. We can think it’s okay to drift along.
We fool ourselves into thinking one more day of goofing around on Facebook won’t hurt anything.
String enough of those days together and you wonder why you can’t move forward.
Decide this week you’ll lead with confidence. Lead yourself – your life, your work, your family, your goals, your team. This podcast episode can help you identify the 4 self-confidence traps and how to quickly overcome them so you can ignore that part of yourself that keeps you stuck.
Dress as if you were about to meet an important potential client (you’re more likely to do so and you’ll sound more confident on the phone). Straighten up your desk.
And for goodness sake, clean out your purse!