Ever notice how some people are happy all the time, no matter what happens to them? It’s not a secret…
…it has to do with how they embrace personal responsibility.
All the whining and crying about what you don’t have and what you’re entitled to just keeps you mired in childhood. Life will turn out to be pretty much what you make of it.
If you continue to choose to look to others to validate you, or to give you what you think you deserve, well, you’re just never going to get to the peace that brings true happiness.
Other people can’t force you to be happy or unhappy.
And you can’t make other people happy or unhappy either.
So how can you be truly happy?
Happiness is a choice.
It’s also directly proportional to the optimism of your thoughts. Whatever you think about, that’s the direction you’ll go – kind of like driving a car down a long highway at night. If you see a light on the side of the road, you will tend to swerve toward it.
Keep your thoughts focused on what could be, the potentiality of your life, and the possibilities and opportunities that surround you every day.
Dwell in the best vision of your future and you will move smoothly toward it. Don’t think about what you don’t have, or what you’re due, or who wronged you, or your past regrets, or why you can never catch a break.
Think about only those things that
- cause you to show up
- grow up
- step up and
- live up to the life God gave you.
You have a unique combination of gifts and talents and skills and interests and intuition. Those things are a clue to what you were designed to be – who you were created to become.
When you stuff them down because you are afraid you won’t measure up to someone else’s standards or expectations, or because you are embarrassed or afraid or unsure, you deny the world the opportunity to experience you at your best.
You were created uniquely, unlike anyone who has ever lived or will ever live and you are here, on this planet, at this time for a reason.
If you honor those gifts, you can be nothing short of extraordinary. If we truly step up to all you can be, you will be a blessing to other people and in turn, will honor God by living up to who you are and what you have been designed to do.
To do anything less – to cower, to shrink back, to listen to other people instead of what you know to be true – only limits the number of people you can help and diminishes your ability to make an impact.
To be truly happy, you must be exactly who you are and take fully responsibility for where you are going. Don’t let your fear be a bully any more.