What will happen when you finally achieve all you’ve dreamed of?
Aside from the expected upticks in your income and the ability to buy more things, travel more, invest more, and do more of what you really enjoy, what else could happen?
If you’re like a lot of people, you haven’t really looked at the downside to achieving all that success.
You may have some vague idea that things will change, and they most certainly will, but you may also have assumed that all those changes will be good ones.
At least that’s what your conscience thinks.
Your subconscious has other plans.
If you have a fear of success, your subconscious has been actively engaged in ensuring that none of those things happen. It has been working diligently to keep you comfortably at status quo.
Fear of success is a hidden, subconscious belief that if you actually become successful, dire consequences will ensue.
It means that no matter how badly you want to achieve success, no matter how hard you work for it, and no matter how strong your will is to achieve it, your subconscious will do everything in its power to prevent it.
And trust me, the subconscious is far more powerful than you might expect.
Fear of success will trigger one of 5 specific anxieties just by visualizing your goal. And that leads to the complete opposite of your intended outcome.
The first anxiety is a fear that if you become successful, other people will love you less. You believe you will lose their affection and they will think less of you.
If you were criticized or belittled as a child, or if your parents didn’t think you’d amount to much, your subconscious may be trying to validate that belief.
By proving them “right,” it keeps you in their good graces but prevents you from winning.
Remaining average confirms what they suspected all along. You don’t make them angry by defying their opinion and they reward you by continuing to approve of your current potential.
You can work for their approval or work for results, but you can’t do both.
The second anxiety is a fear that you will not be able to handle an increase in status – it’s a fear of increased responsibility.
Naturally, as you become more successful you will gain more responsibility. The benefits of achieving success sound great, but the change and responsibility that goes along with it might feel unnerving.
We might feel like a fraud or we’ll feel embarrassed. Maybe we’ll be expected to say and do and be things that just don’t feel comfortable. Maybe we’ll humiliate ourselves by trying to do more than we think we are capable.
Seeing who we could be and stepping into that role requires different sets of skills.
There is good news.
These subconscious anxieties aren’t real, they are phantom thoughts that take up residence in our underlying beliefs to keep us from stepping up and stepping out so we don’t hurt ourselves.
They’re just excuses disguised as beliefs and beliefs are merely decisions that can be changed. You will stop fearing the results of your success when you choose to no longer allow those excuses to choose your future.