For a long time now, two years since my mom passed away, I have felt rather lost. Kind of like I was adrift without a rudder.
But I’ve got my life back now and I just don’t want to waste it.
When you get your life back, you want to live it fearless, rich, and radiant.
I was reflecting on this while out walking my Westie, Tess. I asked myself what I would say to the people I love, if I only had ten minutes before I died.
This is what came tumbling out.
Don’t waste your life.
Stand in your light and make your life matter.
Get to the end of your life having lived bold enough to make a difference. Love all over people and encourage them to stand in their light so that other people can stand in their light too.
Don’t keep working to get to the top of an organization you don’t even believe in.
Nothing matters unless you have love in your life, solid relationships, a cause that lights you up, and a determination to find meaning in your life and work, and meaning in the moment. There must be something that gets up every day and lets you make a difference and be larger than life.
I want you to be everything you were designed and created to be, which is extraordinary.
You were made to be extraordinary. And you don’t need to figure out or find your voice, you just need to use it – use it to encourage other people.
Decide what you stand for and go stand for it.
Stop worrying about what everyone else thinks and go make some big, splashy mistakes. Go fall on your face and get up laughing. Get egg on your face – you will be liberated by being exactly who you were created to be.
Go be judged. We’re going to be judged anyway so let’s be judged on what we really believe in and who we are.
Don’t fritter your life away doing stuff that doesn’t matter.
Don’t spend days and days working at something that doesn’t matter.
Stop doing work you find boring, frustrating, or uninteresting.
And don’t do anything just for money.
Take care of yourself.
You’re the only “you” you have. You only get one shot at this so take care of yourself in every possible way – mentally, physically, emotionally, psychologically – be the best you can be in all those.
Practice healthy living by living up to your ideal, best you.
Refuse to allow others to override what you know is best for your health and well being. Respect yourself and your dreams enough to live a healthy lifestyle.
Don’t let life just happen to you.
Go out there and choose what you want your life to be.
You can design your life anyway you want.
You are not constrained to your history, circumstances, family, or where you came from or how educated you are. You can be what you choose to be.
And don’t let anyone tell you you’re not good enough because honey, you’re not just good enough, you’re extraordinary.
You are amazing. You have more talent and skill and desire and determination than you think. There isn’t anything you can’t do if you go after it and put your mind to it. Don’t let anyone tell you “no” who doesn’t have the power to tell you “yes.”
Don’t. Waste. Your. Life.
Don’t just put in time and don’t waste your life living the wrong one.
I wasted my twenties dating the wrong guys.
I wasted my time in college not studying the right thing.
I wasted 3 years killing time at a job I couldn’t stand.
I wasted years trying to build the wrong business.
Then I finally figured it out late in life – married the right man, went back to school deliberately choosing to be academically successful, and chose a profession I loved.
We all have stuff – baggage – we drag into our life.
Some of use drag our stuff around for years, we hold on to it like it’s some kind of badge of honor or a prize for all the suffering we’ve had.
You can let go of it anytime. You can choose a different tomorrow. You can change your story right this very minute.
You can take charge of your life and choose to live, from now on, fearless, rich, and radiant. All you have to do is take one step in the direction of honoring your dreams – the first step is always the hardest. Then tomorrow, take another one.
And don’t ever stop.
Now go be the extraordinary person you were created to be!